#QandAwesome Episode 1 Fear + Anxiety

Welcome to Episode 1 of #QandAwesome, my new weekly show where you ask the tough questions on business + life and I bring the answers.

In Episode 1, I answer one of the most common questions I get asked… How are you so fearless? Press play for the answer…

Got questions? Email awesome@passionsquared.net or tweet me @passionsquared2 #QandAwesome


Changing Tracks

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. – Eckhart Tolle

 Here is the audio version of this post. Thank you so much for listening. Enjoy.

Change. It’s one of those things that is always tossed around as inevitable yet so many still try to avoid it, whether we are conscious of it or not. I recently experienced something that made me really stop and think about how we many times fear change, or see it as such a negative thing it almost paralyzes us.

This is what happened.

When the new iPhone iOS7 came out, from my perspective, it seemed as though everyone hated it. Typically when Apple launched as new iOS, people got so excited. Including me. New features. New toys. Awesome, right? But with iOS7, all I heard was what a nightmare it was and be ready to have a ton of time on your hands to relearn how to use just about everything. The issue that stuck out most to me was the changes in iCal, which basically runs my life. Every move I make is on iCal, even trash day.

Life has been a little upside down and nutty for me the last several months, and the last thing I needed was my iCal messed up. Seriously, in my mind, if that happened, I would have to crawl into a hole, for real.

The update could wait. It was too dangerous and scary. At least that is what I thought, based on all the noise on the social web. So I waited. And waited. Until…

Facebook launched the new app called Paper, which is actually a really cool & new way to experience Facebook. But, I had to have iOS7 to get it. OMG. Are you kidding me? So it happened. I decided it was time to update my phone. The thoughts running through my mind were crazy. But I took the plunge. And pressed update…and waited.

What comes next is truly where the lesson was for me. After several months of fearing the update, fearing losing all of my information, fearing not being able to use my lifeline called iCal, I turned on my phone and to my total disbelief, it was awesome. Everything was essentially the same, only a bit more awesome looking. More intuitive. More seamless. More new. That was it.

In business and in life, we can see change as negative, or we can see it as opening up more space, creating new opportunity, creating more awesome. Whether its making that long overdue change in your team, systems, or programs, whether it’s a relationship that’s run its course, not all change is negative. Once we accept that, it is truly amazing how much time we can save and awesomeness we can create.

(shared with LOVE from Nina)

Just Ship It

You can’t build a reputation on what you are going to do. -Henry Ford

Here is the audio version of this post. Thanks so much for listening.

How many great biz ideas do you have right now that you have not taken action on? How many times have you talked about doing something awesome and never followed through?

Many of us can relate to the questions above, and its what I call a shipping problem.

You see, we can have all the most awesome ideas in the world, but unless we “ship” them, launch them, initiate them; they are just awesome ideas that will never have any impact on our business or the world.

If you find yourself unable to ship, there may be a few things happening that you need to explore.

Are you afraid?
Do you not have the resources or knowledge?
Do you have too much on your to-do list?
Are you a perfectionist?

All of these things are real and worth exploring, but not always an excuse to not ship your idea.  Now I’m not talking about a $100K remodel, I am talking about ideas, programs, products or services that can bring value to your world and help grow your biz.

Typically, what I have found working with my clients and community, is it is all four that stop so many from creating awesome. So lets break it down.

Most of us fear failure to some degree. But if we are going to ever create awesome, we have to use that fear as creative fuel, bust through, and do it anyway. It’s takes a TON of courage to create stuff. And even more courage to launch and ship it.

Resources + Knowledge
In today’s world, there are a gazillion resources at our fingertips as well as information to help us ship our idea. We just have to want it bad enough to find those resources and knowledge.

The To-Do List
In order to do important things; we have to let go of our obsession with the to-do list. If we get really honest with ourselves, most of the stuff on that list can be deleted, moved or delegated.

Is deadly. The idea that something is ever going to be perfect enough is one of the most dangerous thoughts we have. Why? It can prevent us from doing just about anything. And guess what? It’s never going to be perfect. Ever. Its not meant to be perfect and neither are we.

I wrote my new book, Follow Your Heart, on January 1, 2013. I sat on it for almost 9 months. Why? Fear, my perceived lack of resources, knowledge and my to-do list.  I have long lost the need for anything to be perfect, however, this did creep into my head when I recorded the audio version of the book. For real’s. Upon listening to the book, I began to judge its contents, to the degree that I had to stop listening or I probably would not have shipped.

As I prepare to finally release my book into the universe on January 26th, I see how I was 100% responsible for not shipping. Regret? Never. But what an incredible lesson it was for me, to always remember to look in the mirror, and realize my ability to create awesome and ship awesome is my choice.

(shared with LOVE from Nina)

Park City Utah

On The Other Side Of Fear

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Anaïs Nin


Park City Utah                                     (Park City, Utah, captured by my awesome iPhone)

Here is the audio version of this post. Thank you so much for listening. Enjoy.

As I was traveling home from Utah yesterday, I began to realize how much awesomeness lies on the other side of fear.

Many may understand, many may not, but what I am talking about is how much we miss out on when we become paralyzed by fear. And I’m not talking about FOMO fear (Fear of Missing Out), I am talking about all the beauty and awesomeness that exists in the world and not experiencing it because of fear.

On the Other Side of Fear Is….
The new business you want to create.
The new product or service you want to launch.
The book that is ready to be shared with the world.
The video you have been thinking about making.
The blog you have been meaning to start.
The relationship you have been dreaming of.
The conversation you have been meaning to have with a co-worker or boss.
The trip you have been wanting to take.
The dream job you know is out there.
The family member who misses you.

You see, what I learned upon returning home is there is so much awesomeness and joy on the other side of fear. And the truth is, I have missed out on some pretty cool experiences because of fear. Today, I begin to write a new story. Today I am committed to turning my fear into fuel. Am I still afraid? Yes. Will I let that stop me from experiencing life? No. Not anymore. How about you?

A big heartfelt thank you to Erin Short of The Hair Nerds for giving me the kick in the ass I needed to make the trip to Utah possible, to Larry Curtis, Jami Quenum and the beautiful team at Taylor Andrews Academy for inviting me into their home, to Jake Thompson, Andrew Carruthers and Nick Hemsley for a night that will forever remain in my heart and to my beautiful family in Park City for the reminder that home is where ever family is.

(shared with LOVE from Nina)


Get Started

“you can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.”

Stephen King


Here is the audio version of this post. Snoring compliments of Zen Louis Kovner. Thank you so much for listening.

The beginning of creating awesome or anything really worthwhile is scary, in life and in business. But it can also be empowering and thrilling.

What is the real difference between someone who is living their passion and one who is not? The first one simply got started. Can it really be that simple? Yes. Is it easy? No.

Turn Your Fears Into Fuel
The main reason many never get started is fear. Fear of failure. Fear of uncertainty. Fear of money. Fear of judgement. As one who lives with anxiety on a daily basis, I can tell you this, the fears in our head are far less powerful than the passion in our heart. We just have to make a decision to turn our fears into fuel. Empowerment and awesomeness come when we kick fears in the face. Each step we take towards living our passion fuels the fire within. But we must take the all important first step and get started.

What Are You Waiting For?
If you are waiting for the stars to align and there to be no chaos in your life to get started you never will. You see, life is not designed for perfection. Life is perfectly imperfect, and so are each of us. Life is beautifully messy. There is so much freedom and empowerment that comes we accept this fact.

My buddies Randy & Gerard at Hairbrained did not wait. Neither did my beautiful girls Erin & Carrie of The Hair Nerds. Matt Beck did not wait to create Gratitude Education. Douglas McCoy did not wait to create the incredible House of POp. The beautiful Suzy Tryall did not wait to create Systems of Sage. So I ask, what are you waiting for?

Today is the best day to get started. Yesterday was even better. Tomorrow is third best, but never guaranteed.

(shared with LOVE from Nina)